Ritual function and eating arrangements after death of a person in Hindu religion.

After the death of a person some ritual functions are being done .At the same time eating arrangements are also being done.My question is about eating arrangements. It is surprising and disappointing that only after a short span after the death huge arrangements for eating are made. Rich people and high middle class people make huge arrangements for the eating purpose like marriage party .The problem lies with the lower middle class and poor people .For meeting the eating expenses they take loan or depend on charity.

My question is whether the practice of eating looks nice just after the death of the person?

I would request to the scholar persons and experts of Hinduism kindly to think over the matter of eating arrangements like marriage . I am personally out and out against of this convention and feel whether any civilisation permits the same.